This past Thanksgiving marked a new kind of Thanksgiving in my family’s story. It’s the first time the table would have had an empty seat where my college-bound daughter would usually sit. This year, due to her finals schedule, an opportunity to work, and being able to cook for herself in an apartment she decided to not make the short journey home. As the holiday approached, I grappled with a mix of emotions—nostalgia for the past, a bit of sadness, but also a sense of pride and gratitude.

The Quiet House

The house was quieter than usual. There was no bustling around, no last-minute dashes to the grocery store for forgotten ingredients, and no familiar sound of laughter and chatter filling the rooms. The absence was noticeable, but so is the growth and independence that this transition signifies. My daughter (and only child) is out there, creating her own memories and traditions, and that brings a warmth to my heart.

New Traditions

While this Thanksgiving did not look the same as years past, it opened the door for new traditions. I  decided to embrace this change by trying something different. I spent the day in Pinnacles National Park this year, on a hike, including climbing through caves! It is a new tradition for me, that I hope to continue in years to come, to hike and explore new National Parks over Thanksgiving! I did share a nice phone call with my daughter on my way home, and I enjoyed hearing how her day went with her roommates.

For you, maybe it’s a new recipe, a virtual call with your child to share a moment together, or even inviting friends or extended family to join you. It’s a reminder that traditions can evolve, and the true spirit of Thanksgiving—gratitude, love, and togetherness—can be shown in so many different ways.

Reflecting on Gratitude

This year, my gratitude list has grown in unexpected ways. I’m thankful for the journey my child is on, the opportunities she has, and the person she is becoming. I’m grateful for the technology that keeps us connected, my health to be able to hike and travel, and the supportive community around me. Most importantly, I’ve learned to appreciate the quiet moments and the chance to reflect on my journey.

Advice for Other Parents

To other parents experiencing a similar transition during the holidays, my advice is to embrace the change with an open heart. It’s okay to feel a mix of emotions—acknowledge them and allow yourself to adapt. Find new ways to celebrate and stay connected with your child. Remember, this is just one of many holidays, and each one will bring its own unique joys and challenges.

Looking Forward

As Thanksgiving is behind us this year, I’m filled with a sense of hope and anticipation for what the future holds. Our family dynamic is shifting, but the experiences and memories that bring us together remain strong. This Thanksgiving, I celebrated not just the holiday, but the incredible journey of parenthood and the milestones, both big and small, along the way.